"Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response."
-- Mildred Barthel
How can I expect someone else to be happy with me when I am rarely happy with myself? This is a question I posed to myself after talking to a co-worker today about his upcoming divorce. Like the end of all relationships, one of the partners begs the other for yet another chance to work things out (trust me I have been on that side of it many times!) but if one person is unhappy with themselves then the partnership will never work as a whole.
As I was saying this to my co-worker, I realized that it holds true to my own relationship with my boyfriend. As much as I love him, I can't expect him to love me back the same way when I don't love myself or treat myself with the respect I demand from him. And really why should he? In order to be confident, I would need to be happy with myself and I don't just mean physically! This applies to everything....body, mind, soul, morals etc!
I know that in order to be happy with myself I need to change my attitude and the way I think about myself. I am a beautiful girl with so much potential. I have many gifts and skills that create amazing things. Some day I am truly amazed at things I have made with my own 2 hands but most days I just abuse my hands by overworking them. I know that I care about the people in my life and have a hard time telling them no when they ask for something but maybe its time for a change!
So I am compiling a list of things I need or want to do with my life that could make me a little happier...
1. travel-I want to see the world and the beautify that I have seen in pictures in real life
2. make my business a success
3.take salsa lessons
4.turn all negatives (thoughts) into a positive!
-- Mildred Barthel
How can I expect someone else to be happy with me when I am rarely happy with myself? This is a question I posed to myself after talking to a co-worker today about his upcoming divorce. Like the end of all relationships, one of the partners begs the other for yet another chance to work things out (trust me I have been on that side of it many times!) but if one person is unhappy with themselves then the partnership will never work as a whole.
As I was saying this to my co-worker, I realized that it holds true to my own relationship with my boyfriend. As much as I love him, I can't expect him to love me back the same way when I don't love myself or treat myself with the respect I demand from him. And really why should he? In order to be confident, I would need to be happy with myself and I don't just mean physically! This applies to everything....body, mind, soul, morals etc!
I know that in order to be happy with myself I need to change my attitude and the way I think about myself. I am a beautiful girl with so much potential. I have many gifts and skills that create amazing things. Some day I am truly amazed at things I have made with my own 2 hands but most days I just abuse my hands by overworking them. I know that I care about the people in my life and have a hard time telling them no when they ask for something but maybe its time for a change!
So I am compiling a list of things I need or want to do with my life that could make me a little happier...
1. travel-I want to see the world and the beautify that I have seen in pictures in real life
2. make my business a success
3.take salsa lessons
4.turn all negatives (thoughts) into a positive!
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